Monday, December 31, 2012

Will Gays Have to Go 'Back in The Closet' Once They Enter Senior Care Facilities?

[Vancouver, B.C.] Growing old can be daunting enough, but can be made even more worrisome for the lesbian, gay, bisexual, two-spirited and transgendered community. Often, checking into a retirement home can be like taking a time machine back to the days when homosexuals were underground and didn't risk letting people know about their sexuality. To be accepted and to escape bullying from other rest home residents or even staff, many elderly homosexuals simply choose to go back into the closet. But Alex Sangha says it doesn't have to be that way. As part of a Master's in Social Work at Dalhousie University, Delta resident Sangha has undertaken an initiative to open a rest home catering to the LGBT community and its allies. "We want to welcome everyone, but we just want to create a homophobic/transphobic-free place for everyone," said Sangha. Since he first announced the project and received some media coverage in September he has managed to raise more than $37,000 -- $12,000 more than his original target -- and has received individual donations from across the continent. The largest portions of the donations came from the United Way and the Vancity Community Foundation, but it hasn't just been the money that's rolling in, said Sangha. "We have put out a call for applications to set up a dignity house advisory committee," he said recently. "We wanted up to 10 community members, but we already have 17 people, including the four on the committee who have applied." The committee eventually came to hold 22 members who will get started on the project in late January. Now the next step is to conduct a study on the feasibility of the project, with the ultimate goal to open the "Dignity House" seniors' home.

The project has received some criticism from the public with some people alleging a rest home for a particular community amounts to segregation. UBC professor of social work Brian O'Neill said that's not the case and such a home is needed for LGBT seniors who feel forced to live in isolation or deal with bigotry if they were openly gay at their rest homes. "I've been out since I was 20," said O'Neill, who is gay himself. "I don't want to have to go back into the closet if I had to go into a long-term care facility." Though he said he wouldn't have a problem with going to a traditional rest home, he understands how many could object to it. "The bit of research that I've done around this… is that these institutions have been basically and still are largely organized on the assumption that everybody is heterosexual," he said. The dynamic can make LGBT seniors feel out of place or even unwanted.

Read more at The Tyee